Toyin Abraham is undoubtedly one of the most popular actresses in Nigeria today.
The award-winning artist, married to Kolawole Ajeyemi and mother of a little boy, Ire, recently shared some thoughts about the institution of marriage.
In a video broadcast on her YouTube channel, followed by Saturday Beats, the star of “Alakada” pointed out that there is no manual for marriage, adding that what works for one person may not work for another. She said, “I want everyone to know that there is no marriage manual and that we are not going to marry the same man. Even if we marry the same person, we don’t have the same attitude. Marriage counselors only tell you what is needed in life. We have to be patient. My husband’s name is Kola, but I can’t tell you how to live with your own husband – someone I haven’t lived with.
“Even a man who marries more than one woman wouldn’t treat them equally. The behavior of women towards their husbands will also be very different. I can’t tell you anything about marriage, but the two things I can tell you will help you not only in your marriage, but also in your current relationship.
“You have to be patient (because) our husbands can be boring sometimes. To stay married, your patience must be tireless. Then you must respect your husband. I am an African woman, and I am also educated, even though I am not as cultured as some people. You have to respect your husband. After all, your marriage must come first. These are things that are important, even in relationships with others. I have always told people that marriage is very delicate.
“Sometimes when a marriage falls apart and people advise the couple to “move on,” they think it is very easy to move on. Do you think it is easy? Marriage is deeper than many people think. You must be submissive and respect your husband. I can’t say much about marriage because there is no manual for it. I could marry a certain man and he could behave badly towards me, and another could marry the same man and he could be good to her. I am still young in marriage, but what has worked for me is that I respect and honor my husband.”